THE WAY YOU DRESS DOESN'T DETERMINE WHO YOU ARE

I argued with my friend (no need to mention the name for his privacy) last morning. But I really need to write about it, because the topic is really important to discuss. So I want to make sure everything is clear. This is not about the judgement about him as a person (trying to avoid ad hominem here), but about the way he think and see something. I don't want to ruin my friendship because friendship is above everything (unless it about crime or something, nah it's different cases). Above all, we're already mature, right? No matter how hard the debate is not going to affect me. I'm grown up woman.

You are still my friend, bruh. After all this storm, I hope it doesn't impact us.

So.. Here we go. It started from him first. He made an Instastory on his Instagram. It's about comparation between a girl he called slut (in implicit way) with a fried chicken with price ten thousands rupiah. He said, how cheap the girl (from the way she dressed) and even the food (with price IDR 10.000) is more expensive than her. I'm shocked about his judgemental opinion.

And then I said, "I hope you are talking about food, not about slut shaming,"

He replied, "My opinion was the second one" (with laugh emoji)

"Please don't do that" I said.

Woman Position and Role in Indonesia : Why Culture Teach Woman to be Submissive?

I bet you ever heard people saying this : “Woman should waiting for a man, don’t chase them”. I think it’s a culture. As an Indonesian, it’s stated as an informal rules. Woman should wait. Woman should never say all of her feelings to a man. Nice woman is those who calm, obedient or submissive. If somebody break rules, she would be judge by others. People would say her as a lame, slut, crazy or somekind like that. Then, mostly man would stay away from her. The question is...why woman?